Marriage Hawaii

By what margin did the voters of Hawaii approve the 1998 marriage amendment? By what margin did the voters of Hawaii approve of the 1998 amendment that gives legislature the power to ban same sex marriage? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hawaii_Constitutional_Amendment_2_(1998) What percent approved it?

What are the marriage laws in Hawaii if you live in the States? Never been out of the country before, Do I need a passport to go to Hawaii?

i would like to know if our marriage contract can register in hawaii coz my american husband and i get married? last may 09 2010 here in philippines, now my question is even we get married here can i register our marriage contract to hawaii? coz i heard that if you cannot registered your marriage contract in hawaii your husband can marry onother girl in hawaii...

How do I know if my boyfriend made a contract marriage in hawaii? He is military? I want to find a record or something online to confront him. I know he made it, because he is living out of barracks with a friend that actually know(male) and thats the only way he can go out... with a marriage. I want evidence did someone know how can i do it? thank u so much the points is that he said he didnt do it. and if he did it i want to know when

Discuss the role of interracial marriage in Hawaii, Brazil, and the continental United States.? What differences exist? How are they similar? Does interracial marriage correlate with harmony or dissonance

can we get married the same day we get our marriage license in hawaii? do u know about how to schedule for a appointment in a courthouse in hawaii to get us married the same day we get our marriage license? is it hard to get a schedule? we're short of time. thanks so much

can I get the certificate in lieu of legal capacity to marriage of my filipino girflriend here in hawaii? or do I have to go clear over to manila to get it?

what are the requirements for getting a marriage license in Hawaii if you live in Delaware?

Gay Marriage in Hawaii? Is gay marriage legal in Hawaii? Can two non-residents go to Hawaii and get married in a civil ceremony?

Is gay marriage legal in other states besides California, Hawaii and Massachusetts? I think those are all the current states. California's law passed a few days back. How does it work? Does the couple have a wedding, have a marriage license, and get the same rights/benefits as a male/female married couple?

gay marriage in hawaii, is it better than getting married in CA?

Military, Marriage, Getting my stuff to Hawaii? I'm getting married into the military. Right now I live in Georgia with my parents. I am flying to Hawaii to elope.. How do I get my stuff to Hawaii? What about my dog? Dude, are people that dumb? You cannot drive to Hawaii from Georgia.

hawaii civil marriage problem? I need to know the requirements for a civil marriage on the island of oahu. Both me and my fiance are in the army and wanna get it done and outta the way. What do i need to bring with me to the Justice of the peace and what kinda requirements does it have? Also if there is a way we could get it done on base would that be easier? Please any information is helpful. If someone could walk me through this i would greatly appreciate it.

what are the requirements for getting a marriage license in Hawaii? I am getting married in Maui in January - but I am from California.

Is there a way to get a marriage license in florida with me in hawaii and my fiance in florida? in hawaii cause im in the army and we're both residents of florida and getting married in florida

How do you get a marriage certificate in Hawaii without a ceremony? We are having the ceremony on December 12th. But we want to be married now. I know where to get a marriage license. I'm not sure where to get and then file a certificate. Can I do it in the same place that I file the license? Or do I need to take the license else where and request that an officiant or judge fills it out and files it? And if elsewhere, where? I can't find the answers anywhere. I can only find where to go to file for a marriage license, and all of the laws within the state of Hawaii pertaining to marriage. Does anyone know how this is done in Hawaii without a ceremony and officiant? Or at least in a non-traditional, legal only way. Ok, so I would take the license down to the court house and request that a judge perform a basic ceremony. Do I need a witness? Can I have just one person do that? And thanks. Ok, then I'll have to bring one more person with me. Thanks. Even in the court house, just to do it legally, we would still have to exchange vows and such? We haven't finished writing them yet, and we want them to be a surprise. Can't we just get all the papers signed by everyone and be done with it, and just wait until December to do all of the traditional things? And yes, I am aware it is our responsibility to make sure that all the paper work goes where it is supposed to go. I just didn't know who sent what to where. And we are calling the court house... again. Thanks.

I am Canadian; What steps do I have to take to be legally married in Hawaii? I am getting married in Honolulu in November. What do I need to do to make it legal back at home? Do I need an appointment to get a marriage liscence in Hawaii, or can I just walk in while I am there?

I'm trying to find marriage records from Hawaii, any suggestions?

do you think hawaii should have same sex marriage?

If I get married in Hawaii and live in Atlanta where would I get a marriage Lisence?

Is same sex marriage legal in Hawaii?

im AF shes Army,is marriage by prxy possible between England and Hawaii,shes from Texas im from Florida? we want to get married by proxy now and hope that when I PCS from here i may be able to go to Hawaii,who do i talk to and what do i do,any help would be great!!

What is it like to live on an Army base in Hawaii? My boyfriend and I are considering marriage and he might get stationed in Hawaii after his tour in Iraq, so I was wondering what it's like to live on base there? Or just in Hawaii in case we live off-base.

Is it possible to get a marriage license in Ohio, but then get married in Hawaii? I wanted to know if it was possible to purchase a marriage license in Ohio with my fiance, and then fly to Hawaii for the ceremony. I know that there is a 30 day period before the license expires, but I was wondering if it was possible to use it in a different state.

Do two guys pledged to a homosexual union make a marriage? Apparently, the voters of Maine didn't think so, where the state law calling homosexual unions was voted out 53-47%. Of 31 states where voters have weighed in on marriage, all 31 have refused to call homosexual unions marriage--from sea (Maine) to shining sea (California and Hawaii). Subquestion: Is there really a groundswell of political demand to reinvent marriage?

If you get married in Hawaii, and live in Houston. Where do you apply for a marriage liscence?

I live in Idaho, how do I legally marry in Hawaii? Hi there! Okay so my Fiancee' and I live in Idaho but are getting married in Hawaii in August, do we get a marriage license from Idaho or Hawaii? Does it matter? Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

In Hawaii are you more accepted if youre "brown"? I heard that in Hawaii youre more accepted if your brown instead of "white". (Just out of curiosity) what % of marriages in hawaii are interracial

Can I bring my own officiant from California to marry us in Hawaii? I would like my brother in law to perform our wedding in Hawaii either by becoming a notary or lay minister. I can't find any information on what he would need to do for our marriage to be legal.

Gay Marriage - Which state do you think might be the next to validate it? It's important to remember that Gay Marriage is LEGAL in every state. It is just not recognized in terms of employment, taxes, adoption and other civil rights in most states. Iowa, Massachusetts, Vermont, Hawaii and California have all had civil unions and Gay Marriage "validated" at some point in their history. I think there are others but I can't remember which ones. Which do you think will be the next?

Could you please explain to me the difference between a marriage and a civil union? I just heard of the news that Hawaii is considering 'an alternative for gay marriages and allowing civil unions for them'. Does one give you more rights?

Can you get a green card in Hawaii, if you get married to same sex? Recently state of Hawaii approved same sex marriages. If i get married to my boyfriend can he get a Green Card for the US? I am an american citizen and he is not. So i need help from professionals not from people's opinions.

Maine, NH, Vermont introduce gay marriage bills? Maine, NH, Vermont introduce gay marriage bills...If these bills pass, they will join Mass and Connecticut in legalizing same sex marriage. Hawaii is introducing civil unions legislation potentially to join California (marriage legally disputed) and Vermont.. What do you think? Is this a good sign? story is on 365gay.com ;)

Did the Civil Union Bill 444 get legalized in Hawaii? I haven't watch the news lately and the last time I heard was that there was a big debate over the Civil Unions Bill 444 in Hawaii that would grant equality for same sex marriage as it would with heterosexual couples....

Why doesn't the State of Hawaii have a birth certificate for Barack Obama, on any date, in any city/county? Checking the public records, only Obama's now inactive license to practice law in Illinois, his marriage certificate and other records can be located. There are no public records, birth, census, marriage for Barack Obama senior or him in Hawaii or any other state in the U.S. Also no public records for a Barack Soetoro. Only his half sister comes up in public records in Hawaii.

What jobs can I get with a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy? I am 1/2 way throughmy Masters degree and I because I live on the Big Island of Hawaii jobs for MFT's seem limited. Does anyone know what jobs are out there?

Why is first cousin marriage legal in California and the new England states? So much for all those jokes on southerners having romantic relationships with family members Now it turns out that liberal holy lands such as Cali and the new England states allow it LOL. In fact Cali, Maine, Connecticut, Hawaii, Vermont and Oregon allow it. Shitty Whore: I don't have any cousins dumbass, I am just pointing out the irony of calling southerners inbreds when in fact it is very legal in liberal places.

what's the process of having a court wedding in hawaii? or just in general? my fiance gets back from deployment in july and were planning on having a court wedding. i don't really know the whole process of how to obtain a marriage license and how to have a court official marry us. any help?

Does anyone think Hawaii legislators are idiots for voting for HB444 out of fear? HB444 allows civil unions (rather like same-sex marriages) the same benefits as a legal marriage.

do they do checks on previous marriages in hawaii? what if I don't list my one? will anyone find out? could I be denied marriage license on the spot? I am divorced for 9 yrs I don't even remember the actual date of divorce. And would rather not say prev. divorces on sheet, but didn't know if they do a bkground ck. thanks, I looked at the site you suggested. I am just hoping if I don't even ment. that it will not be pulled up by them during the process of applying.

Are civil marriages performed on Maui, instead of religious marriages? I know a couple in Austria who want to get married on Maui this summer. They want their church marriage in Austria and just the civil marriage in Hawaii on Maui. They said they could only find Reverends on Maui who do marriages. Does that automatically make it a religious marriage? Are there people other than Reverends who can perform a civil marriage on Maui?

I'm planning to get married in hawaii can someone how has experience help? There is so much stuff on the internet... so many websites with info - I've became a little confused. Here are the main details Its just going to be my fiancee and I. No one else do I plan on bringing with me. We have 5-7k to spend on the trip and the marriage. Can someone tell me what wedding planner they used, what island are best for getting married, what is the best hotels etc any details would help... I'm a little confused. Thanks! so much!

If you live in California but decide to get married in Hawaii, specifically Maui, what would I need to know? My husband and I have been married for about 5 years and now we are facing a high possibility of getting a divorce. However, we were married in Maui, and I'm afraid to ask, am I getting the same laws of divorce in California or do the laws of divorce apply for where we first married, which is Maui? California is a commen law State and all property and income from the date of marriage would be equally divided. But since we were married in Maui, does that matter? Please, only serious answers.

I want to find Glenn S kamei who grew up in Hawaii Kai Hawaii. Where do I look? He went to Kaizer High School and graduated in 1977 then went on to college at Santa Rosa JC in Santa Rosa California. He married a lovely girl from Hawaii and they had a child, I believe a son along with his daughter Jennifer from a previous marriage. Last I knew he was living in the Kapiolei area of Hawaii. His birthday is May 5th.

Is my boyfriend thinking about marriage? My guy and I live together and have been for 6 months now. We've talked about our future, and he's usually very direct with it. He plans on taking me to Hawaii in 20 years and he has said he has no plans on being anywhere else. I feel the exact same, but am scared he might ask me to marry him soon. What should I do? I love him and I want everything he does, I'm just not ready to get married yet.

Vermont & Iowa recently join Massachusetts & Connecticut as recognizing gay marriage: Is it a continuing trend? The three New England state doesn't suprise me, but I was shocked to know that Iowa, out of all other states, legalized it. Especially since California, a much more liberal state, revoked it. I do see this as a continuing trend though. I believe it'll slowly make it's way across many other states, over the next couple decades. Sadly, there will be people who care about an issue that doesn't involve them. People can't even get their own marriages together, and have more than a 1/2 chance of getting divorced, so it's not like they're in a position to judge. Especially Baptists in the south, who seem to take most opposition to this, who also have the highest divorce rate. I'm a heterosexual, who's not married, and I don't want anything to do with other people's business. I'll ask three follow up questions now: 1) How many years do you think it'll take before 20 states will legalize gay marriage: A) By 2015 B) By 2020 C) By 2025 D) After 2035 E) Never 2) Pick 4 of these 10 states who you expect to ''permanently'' legalize gay marriage first: Hawaii, California, New Jersey, New York, Maine, New Hampshire, Illinois, Arizona, Nevada, Minnesota 3) Pick 4 of these following 10 states that you believe will never legalize gay marriage, or at least not in this century: Mississippi, Arkansas, Alabama, Oklahoma, Louisana, Texas, Wyoming, Ohio, Florida, South Carolina Dan - You're probably write with that statement, but it's not because of gay marriage. It's because of our economic infrastructure, which was destroyed, by war debt, from the party that opposes this. The ''Holy Bible'' may give the spirit to some, but it doesn't mean all. Being that we're a country where church and state are separate, shouldn't ''gay marriage'' be isolated from our government's decisions? Ideally, it should be, but that's never how politics works. Not if you want to get re-elected, at least. For Christians, it's all about how you interpret the bible. If people took it word for word, they'd be committing a sin every 5 minutes. Even the majority of the most conservative Baptists in the deep south will tell you evolution is a reality, even if not all like to say it in those words. So it's shown we come a long way. This trend spread to Canada before us, and to much of European, now including the UK. It'll eventually make it's way to Japan too, just like the banishment of the death penalty fully, will come in their country, like ours, down the road. Yes, I should have included Utah in that list. It's pretty much a given, but who knows, maybe one day, like 50 years from now, someone will find this while googling that and saying, wow they were from. Yes, the state legislature approved it. http://blogs.wsj.com/washwire/2009/04/07/vermont-becomes-fourth-state-to-allow-gay-marriage/ This was today.

I want to get married in Hawaii but I reside somewhere else.? Me and my boyfriend are talking about getting married. First of all we want to get married in a court just to make it official until we are ready for the big day. We want to eventually get married in Hawaii. My question is how exactly would this work? Would this take place of our previous marriage certificate out of Virginia? Also would I have to pay state taxes in Hawaii since I was married there or would I pay state taxes in Virginia? Thanks for any help!!!

Getting married, can you mentally trade the marriage for the engagement? my soon to be wife / fiancé is a resident alien, we've been dating for almost 2 years, I can see her as my wife and things are going well... she'll need to leave the US in about 8 months if we aren’t married... now, what I was thinking is that we go ahead and get married but make it just "legal" like with a prenuptial agreement to keep our assets separate... no big ceremony because we both live in Hawaii with parents all over the world. This would be for convenience and would be treated like an engagement mentally... and then when we relocate in a year or so we would have a ceremony and have the families come when its easier... I know it’s not traditional and I don’t want to cheapen the experience… but we love each other and want to make this an easy transition, and under the circumstances this feels ok... any suggestions on how to make it go smoothly? Legal advice? Just don’t want to rush in, but I still want us to stay together. Thanks...

Can I get married to my UK girlfriend whilst on a travel visa? She lived with me in Hawaii for 19 months.? We have been living together in a marriage like relationship for over two years now. I have traveled to the UK on a visitors visa, but now would like to look for work. Obviously we would have to get married first, and I am curious if I have to go back to the US first. Can't I just fill out the forms for a COA, as long as it is within three months of my current visa expiring?

Is a Hawaiian marriage certificate valid in Canada? (specifically Ontario)? If a Canadian citizen has a marriage ceremony in Hawaii... is the marriage legally recognized in Ontario? Please advise.

Gay/Lesbian Marriage? Is gay/lesbian marriage legal in Hawaii?

how long does it take the state to send a new social security card when you had a name change due to marriage? i live in hawaii and in order to get a new social security card for a name change they told me to fill out the paper and leave the marriage lisence in the envelope with the form. its been about three weeks and i still never recieved my new social security card or marriage lisence back. just wondering how long its supposed to take or whether something may have happened to my application...

Why haven't more states had gay marriage taken to court? Like with Massachusetts, Hawaii, and Iowa....why hasn't this happened in places like Ohio or Alaska?

I am taking my wife to Honolulu, on a budget, residents of Hawaii recommend a nice place to stay on the beach. We are arriving to Honolulu airport, I would like to find someting no more that 120 dlls the night. We have 6 children from our prior marriages and this is our honeymoon, after almost 4 years of marriage, I want it to be special, but we have a kid starting college this September. We are on a budget, my wife loves sightseeing, she is very cultured so I accept recommendations.

Is a marriage in canada between a canadian citizen and US resident legal in the US? My fiance and I are planning on gatting married in canada. He is american (ca) and I am Canadian. We were also planning to get married in Oahu in Hawaii since we didnt think it was legally binding in the US. Is it plz provide some proof to back up your answer. The main question I need to know is is a wedding in canada recognized in the US as legal or do we need to also be married in the US. Please provide a link to back-up your answer!

Do any of you love your aunts or uncles even if they are related to by marriage? I have a great aunt on mum's side by marriage who I love to bits and I phone her a few times a year. She live in Hawaii and I live in Vancouver. Do any of you have a aunt or uncle you love related by marriage but you love to bits and you feel that blood or no blood they are still family?

When is a marriage over? Is it when you're separated? Or when you're officially divorced? John McCain met Cindy in 1979 and was divorced in 1980. Apparently they were already separated by the time John went to Hawaii and met Cindy. Was their marriage basically over by that point? Or did he cheat? When you answer, please let me know if you've been divorced or not.

Do you have to have a marriage in the state that you are getting married in if you live in another state? I live in TN and have thought about getting married in either FL or Hawaii. Do I have to obtain a license in that state in order to be legal?

Can a marriage that took place in the United States be annullled in the Philippines? Married in Hawaii, USA Currently living in the Philippines Would like to divorce but, of course, no divorce in the Phils. What can I do?

No cat left behind!!! How strict is it to get to Hawaii? Can I do it by air or boat? Is it necessary? plse hlp I have only 32 days before I move. My cat is 12 (recently adopted due to newlywed marriage of six months and I love him,) and he is and always has been incredibly vibrant and healthy! I am scared to death that all those "preventive" shots will be such a blow to his system t will be devastating. The guidelines are ruthless. I am not at all rich but is hiring a boat from L.A. to Maui is even feasible to get around an impossible and outrageous law (for me at least). Please help and give advice. -- Will they stop me at the airline if I travel with him?

If you were a Kansas-born newlywed at grad school in Hawaii in 1961, pregnant with your first child? ...would you fly to Nairobi, Kenya to deliver that child, merely because your new husband happened to be from Kenya? Did they have better health care in Nairobi in 1961 than they did in Honolulu? Was it cheaper to make that long flight? Would you even have been allowed to fly, that far along in your pregnancy? Did Kenyans accept interracial marriage more than people in Hawaii? Is it even remotely likely that this could have occurred? Oft suspended: My question is why in the world they would have gone to Kenya in the first place. What's your theory for that?

Proposal Ideas in Hawaii? Me and my girlfriend have been through alot for the past 2 1/2 years. I planned a trip to Hawaii. Weve been talking about marriage off and on for awhile but i wanted the proposal to be special and something she wouldnt forget, were going to the island of Oahu, any good ideas on how to ask? I want it to be something big and memorable. Also for the girls, if you had a guy that you knew had a hard time doing stuff that he wasnt good at (singing being one of them) because he felt stupid. Would it make you feel special if he sang you your guys song, even if he was pretty terrible, but not just to you like in a karaokee bar. Would you like that or be imbarrased?

Cold feet about marriage and children, normal or is my relationship over.? I am engaged to a wonderful woman - I am a 32 yo male and she a 33 yo female. Dating about 3.5 years, not living together. We are both financially secure and don't fight often and have what I consider a respectful relationship - no cheating, etc. We are planning a wedding this summer, and she wants to be pregnant later this year or early next year. We have fought about timetable for children quite a bit in the last year and I am having severe cold feet. We have traveled quite a bit the last few years (Hawaii, Jamaica, Alaska Etc.) and I love the adventure and excitement that comes with our lifestyle of being able to pursue adventures together. I am worried children will end all of that and drive a wedge in our relationship rather than bring us closer as a family. I am not sure if one is ever ready for kids, but I enjoy my time with my fiance and am not sure the pressures of children wouldn't end our relationship. She won't compromise on her timetable and I have a career change in 2 years. I think 38 is the time, I would be ready for children, but she says 39 is too old. I feel like if I give in, my dreams are dying and sooner or later I will have tremendous regret and I will resent the kids, but if she gives in and has problems with pregnancy, she will blame me. Is it better to break up and allow her to find someone who wants children now so she can be happy. or am I just going through normal jitters. I have no problem with marriage, but I wan't our relationship to be like it is for a few more years so we can still live more of our dreams instead of giving them up for children. I would hate to be 60 years old with terrible regrets on giving up on dreams because I didn't wan't to lose a woman who had differing goals from me. Please help!

I have been cheated on. So I had an affair. How do I begin to repair my marriage? There's not much left of my marriage. But I have to try to mend the damage for the children. What is the best way to start being close again? No, we do not sleep together. I do need this to go slow. I'm still hurting. My affair ripped my heart out, and yes, I deserve the pain. Understand, that I love my husband as a friend. But that is all. It is functional. I don't want to go to marriage counseling. Two tickets to Hawaii is cheaper and better than talking to a stranger once a week about the past twenty years. There wouldn't be enough time to sum it all up with words. And I don't want to rehash it all, he said, she said. What are some little things I can do to start to make amends? So that I can forgive and be forgiven? Where and how do we begin to start over?

What happens if I get married right now, and then I go to hawaii and get married again? What happens if I get two marriage licenses to the same person? We wanna secretly get married but not spill the beans later, so what would happen if we got another marriage license? Is it against the law or anything like that?

Marriage License??? How much does a marriage license cost for the state of: Hawaii? Alaska? California?

Should I marry my girlfriend when we go to Hawaii? We will be the only two people there (no friends or family). We've already talked about marriage being in the near future and our trip is in 5 weeks, so why not? We've both been married before so we both didn't want that stupid big production wedding that everyone gets. What a waste.

Where is there an interfaith EngagedEncounter Hawaii? This is my 2nd Marriage and Her first. I've been to ME, and want to attend EE. I have had no luck finding an Interfaith EE on Oahu, I've only found Catholic, and they won't have anything to do with us. Are there other Pre-Marital options?

Marriage cert. to bar? Hey, i was just wondering...im getting married in 3 weeks and am 19. Im going to hawaii for my honeymoon with my 24 year old fiance. If we go to a bar and show our marriage liscence, can i come in and dance if i dont drink??? thank you!

Long, Annoying and Unfair - Need Marriage Advice? Alright, so I'm asking for advice but, in a way, writing this is also therapy for me. I fully expect people to email me and call me an asshole, a hypocrite and make fun of me. That's fine, I probably deserve it. What I'm hoping to get at least a little of is something constructive and helpful. If anyone has had a similar experience to me, that would be especially useful. So I met my wife in lawschool. We hung out all the time, drank, did drugs and basically did the friends with benefits thing. We also had sex with other people. I wasn't jealous about that at the time. Towards the end of school, my wife took a job in Hawaii and I stayed in SF. I told her that we weren't an item and that we should see other people. I don't think she liked hearing that. She was going to stay in Hawaii for at least a year. She hated Hawaii, at first, and I hated my corporate job in the city. I was having sex with other people and I knew she was having sex with other people in Hawaii. We lied to each other and said we weren't seeing or screwing anyone. Eventually I had a second thoughts about her so I asked her to move in with me when she was done in Hawaii. We still asked each other whether we were sleeping with or seeing other people. We kept lying to each other about that and, since we aren't stupid, we each knew the other was lying the entire time. She said she wanted to move back with me and that she loved me. She said it instantly without hesitation. We talked on the phone almost daily. When her voicemail came on on a Friday night, I figured she was with someone and I'd get a little jealous even though I was doing the same goddamn thing. When she got back things were tough at first. We weren't living in a very cool place, we weren't making good money (I got fired and had to get a new job), she got an abortion (mine), she couldn't find a job she wanted. When I'd get home from work she'd be all mopey all the time. Sometimes she'd be wearing just sweats and hadn't showered. It wasn't like she was dirty, she just wasn't trying to impress me. She'd gotten to like Hawaii while she was there. She was always telling me how in shape she'd been, how tan, how she would always go out and get drunk or do drugs. I could tell she wasn't happy that she'd moved back. She kept saying she hated it back in California and the only thing worth coming back for was me. I'm not sure if she meant it all the time. We fought constantly about virtually everything. I wasn't interested in having sex with her. I sometimes regretted asking her to come back. The fact that I knew she had had sex with people in Hawaii didn't bother me in the slightest. In the first year when she came back, it came out that I had slept with some people while she was out of state. She freaked out, cried and swore up and down that she had never slept with anyone while she was in Hawaii because she was being honest about our "long distance" relationship. Over the next few years, things got better between the two of us. We fought less. We took better care of ourselves and looked generally better. Our jobs got better and we moved to a nicer place. Things became pretty happy and I think we were both honestly content. I proposed, bought a big ring and she accepted. We eloped a short time later because planning for the wedding had become annoying. It was wonderful. Right after our first year of marriage she got the dream job offer in the dream place to live. We were both ecstatic. We prepared to move and she flew to a seminar for training. While she was gone, I happened to read her email. She had saved emails to a friend and they detailed how she had had sex with five people while in Hawaii, how the sex was incredible, how she did drugs and drank and basically went wild. She had rated all the people she had sex with. I was a 10 but so was some other guy in Hawaii and another was a 9.5. Bear in mind that I had been with six or seven people while she was gone. Even so, I got pretty pissed about the whole thing. I confronted her about the other guys, she admitted but didn't apologize since I admitted I had done the same. I figured it was no big deal and I don't think she ever cheated on me. She also wrote in the emails that she missed me incredibly but that didn't stop her from having sex. She wrote about how she had second thoughts about coming back how she enjoyed her independence. She didn't mention that she wanted to stay for any particular guy. That was three months ago. Since then, I haven't been able to keep the emails out of my mind. I get angry with her, stop speaking with her we fight about what she did while in Hawaii. I know I have no right to be angry since I did the exact same things but I am angry and insanely depressed. I think I'm actually more depressed than I've ever been in my whole life. When I wake up until I go to sleep I think of her having sex with other people, I think how she's a slut and how she probably bragged that she was doing this while her long distance boyfriend was none the wiser. I simply cannot get the thoughts out of my mind. I have tried to think about other things and I can't, I've tried to rationalize that it doesn't matter since I did the same stuff and I can't. I think about suicide constantly. I think about divorce. I think about moving to Hawaii myself and leaving her. I think about how she was in her best shape then, tan and fun and drunkenly getting the shit fucked out of her by hot surfer guys. I know the kind of screwing I do to be a 10 so I'm pretty goddamned sure what they did to be a 10 and 9.5 respectively. I think about how she came back and was mopey and wasn't the same for me. She's still hot, but not as hot as she described herself then. I feel they got the best of her and I got seconds. The other odd thing that's happened is that our sex life has really improved. At least, I want to have sex with her constantly now. For the the past three months, I haven't even watched any porn or jerked off to anyone else but her. That is one thing I'm actually kind of happy about. But I get upset when she doesn't want to and sometimes I bring up the people in Hawaii when she says no as if to say "if you were a slut for them why not me?" We are having a shitload of sex though. Immediately after sex is the only time I'm not insanely jealous and down. I also get angry since she doesn't smoke now and hardly drinks. I'm so depressed and angry I drink more now and took up smoking again. She complains about how I smell after I smoke and sometimes doesn't want to kiss me. I bring up the fact that one of the guys she was fucking in Hawaii dipped and we fight some more. I see double standards in everything. I don't want to leave her and I don't want to feel this way. But I can't keep going on in this kind of misery, it's just a constant torture that's driving me completely insane. I know that it's unfair of me to feel this way but knowing that doesn't make it go away. I need to know what to do. Is there some pill I can take to mellow me out until this passes? Will this pass? Will therapy do something? Should I just leave while I'm still young (33)? If you've gotten this far, please, please email me and tell me what you think I should/could do. Some really interesting and insightful answers. Now that I think of it, I am possessive and narcissistic, among other things... Thank you all. I wish I could choose several best answers. So the prevailing logic seems to be not to leave her?

I know a Lesbian couple who is getting married in Hawaii in a few days. Question? So they get married in Hawaii and return to Texas. Texas does not recognize same sex marriage. So they aren't legally married in Texas (where they live) but are in Hawaii (where they dont but simply vacationed.) If they break up, I know they dont have to do anything in Texas. But what if one of them wants to remarry someone else and in another state that does recognize same sex marriage. Do they have to get a divorce before they can remarry? And WHERE do they get a divorce--in the state they married in...even though they dont live there and wouldn't meet any resident tests? THis is just very confusing to me. Can someone help me understand how this would work -- or not -- legally. Inquiring minds ask. Well guess what? I did more research and found out that Hawaii does NOT have legal gay marriage...in fact it hasa constitutional law banning same-sex marriages. But it does have domestic-partnership laws that provide certain legal rights to gay relationships. I guess my friends arnt getting married but doing one of those commitment ceremony things.....which renders my question moot for them. But it is a valid question that Im curious as to the answer. What if they married in New Hampshire? PS- AbFab is righteous~!

Where was gay marriage legalized in the U.S.? I'm doing an essay on gay marriage for one of my courses. I want to discuss how gay marriage momentarily recognized in Massachusetts and Hawaii, only to be overshadowed by the government not recognizing the unions as a nation. I don't have all of the details though, as in dates and terms. Any specifics that you could help me out with would be greatly appreciated. Also, is San Francisco currently trying to recognize civil unions as marriage? And have civil unions ever recieved the same tax benefits as a more traditional marriage?

How do you get a marriage certificate in Hawaii without a ceremony? We are having the ceremony on December 12th. But we want to be married now. I know where to get a marriage license. I'm not sure where to get and then file a certificate. Can I do it in the same place that I file the license? Or do I need to take the license else where and request that an officiant or judge fills it out and files it? And if elsewhere, where? I can't find the answers anywhere. I can only find where to go to file for a marriage license, and all of the laws within the state of Hawaii pertaining to marriage. Does anyone know how this is done in Hawaii without a ceremony and officiant? Or at least in a non-traditional, legal only way.

Legal questions about Irish marrying in Hawaii? Hi!!! I hope someone can help me I have a few questions. My fiance and I are getting married next year in Maui, Hawaii and I can't find the info I'm looking for about the marriage being legal in Ireland. I'm nearly sure it's okay but I have to be 100% sure! Also, he wants his little brother to "do a Joey" and marry us. There's no problem with getting him ordained but would the ordaination hold up in Ireland? He would be all fine and legal in the US, including Hawaii, but it also has to be legal here. I don't want someone a year down the line saying "Oh, hold on. U weren't married by a legal minister. Ur not legally married" Does anyone know, or know where I could find out? I've looked up loads of info but it can be really confusing. Plus, we're not doing anything religious so none of that counts. Any help would be appreciated. Mahalo nui loa! (Thanx!) Anyone??! Anyone at all? U there, in the back. Don't be shy! ^^^ tumbleweed rolls by ^^^ Anybody out there?

Is there anyone that lives in Maui, Hawaii.........? Is there anyone that lives in Maui that knows where my fiance and I can go to have a civil marriage ceremony? We only want to get married by a judge or justice of the peace, not have some big ceremony. I know we have to find a marriage license agent first. Does applying for a marriage license have a long wait? Hours, days, weeks? We will only be there for one week.

I am a Canadian. We want to get married In Hawaii. How would we go about? getting a marriage license. We will be there for 1 week. Any ideas or suggestions on how to obtain this would be great...

Is Hawaii a good place for single Asian-American man I've been in US for 20 years. I currently have a State job, but I want an exit from America. I want out. I think America never allowing a girl friend is probably a big reason. (Black women can complain and blame the society like in the CNN's article "Black and Single: Is marriage for Whites only?", but Asian men can't do that. We'll be told something is wrong with us. We'll be vehemently accused of racism and sexism, and ridiculed for not getting it. It's tiresome) So can I go back to Asia? That's much easier said than done. I think Hawaii would be easier to go to than going back to Asia. I am aware that Asians are still the majority, but Asian population percentage is decreasing in Hawaii. Cost of living??? No, you can't run away from high cost of living, People are complaining high cost of living everywhere. However, for employerable Asian-American man, can life be different for the better in the islands of Hawaii? Please advise. I also want to be awayyyyy from America. I hope to get a good laugh at American Dream. I meant away from mainland America. I don't know: Just go ahead and post with your ethnicity and gender. How in the world am I ridiculous???? Hawaii is part of America???? Yes only because Americans illegally overthrew sovereign Hawaiian republic. See the kind of ridicule and criticism Asian American men get if they complain? Asian American men are under an "UNIQUE" criticism that is most difficult to protest against, and we are silenced. If any American will pay for the expense of my going back to Asia and settling back there, I would go back to Asia in a heart beat. Attitude m y a$$$$$. Do you think I would ever bring up this kind of complaint in real life????? Do you think Asian American men are that stupidddd?????? This kind of problem takes time to be resolved. It will take passing of several generations!

Same-Sex Marriage, Civil Unions, Domestic Partnerships, and Defense of Marriage Acts? “Same-sex marriage” means legal marriage between people of the same sex. * Only Massachusetts issues marriage licenses to same-sex couples (since 2004). “Civil union” is a new category of law that was created to extend rights to same-sex couples. These rights are recognized only in the state where the couple resides. * Only Vermont (since 2000), Connecticut (since Oct. 2005), and New Jersey (since Dec. 2006). “Domestic partnership” is a new category of law that was created to extend rights to unmarried couples, including (but not necessarily limited to) same-sex couples. Laws vary among states, cities, and counties. Terminology also varies; for example, Hawaii has “reciprocal beneficiaries law.” Any rights are recognized only on the state or local level. * California, Hawaii, and Maine, and district-wide laws in the District of Columbia, confer certain spousal rights to same-sex couples. Please respond with how you would vote in your state if these were on the ballat

Since Christians have banned gay marriage, why don't they ban cousin marriage? All these states recognize marriage to first cousins: Alabama Alaska California Colorado Connecticut District of Columbia Florida Georgia Hawaii Maryland Massachusetts New Jersey New Mexico New York North Carolina Rhode Island South Carolina Tennessee Texas Vermont Virginia Isn't there anything that "good" book the Bible that says inbreeding is wrong? Why don't you Christians go ban that too? Children born from cousin parents have a much higher change to mental disorders. I think a lot of people in society (>50%) find cousing marriage disgusting as gay marriage and would like to impose their views on other regarding that too. So when will you start asking for donations? "children have a much higher chance of mental disorders". sorry about spelling.